Last night, Ron and I had the opportunity to attend an event for married couples at our church. It was called "Married Life Live" and it was put on by our Married Life Ministry. It was the first event of its type at church. It is one that they have already planned to host quarterly. Our church desires that married couples have healthy marriages, so they have several events planned throughout the year for the purpose of pouring into the lives of married couples in our church.
When we walked in, there were refreshment tables set up along the back walls of the worship center. Coffee, water, and all kinds of desserts were there for the taking. Round tables were set up all throughout the worship center. The centerpiece for each table was some random board game. It was pretty cute how they set it up.
We sat at a table with another couple, who happen to be our next door neighbors. We grabbed some food and coffee and enjoyed our child-free time. Did I mention childcare was only $5 per family?! One of our pastors and his wife engaged the group in some fun activities. Silly things, really. We had a lot of laughs. Some at other peoples' expense, but laughs nonetheless. It was good just to relax and have fun.
A little later on in the evening, another pastor got up and gave a message about the married life and the vision for these events. He then talked about the idea of marriage being "work" versus being "fun". He made so many wonderful points regarding this using Proverbs 5 as his scripture reference.
If you read the entire chapter, you will see that it speaks on the subject of "Avoiding Immoral Women", or "adultery". This scripture was put in the context of anything that is enough of a distraction to our marriage that it is taking priority over the needs of our marriage. It could be a person, but it could also be work or other activities outside the home. Anything that is keeping us from tuning in to the health of our marriage.
The message was fantastic. It was one that I'm sure left an impact on the lives of roughly 200 married couples who were in attendance last night. One of our biggest take aways from the night was that we need to do what we can to return to that state of being so "drunk" in love that we are willing to do silly things together and to have fun. Certainly we do need to work on our marriages. We need to keep the lines of communication open and work on any problem areas, but we need to rejoice in the partner that God has given to us. We've been married almost 14 years. I think it's safe to say that a lot of couples settle in and get comfortable in their marriage and that fresh, new "in love" feeling is something in the distant past. Not that you don't love your spouse anymore, but it's a different feeling. Time to rekindle the old flames and get back to that old feeling!! Time to put the fun back into our marriage!