Monday, October 8, 2012

Pregnancy & Infant Loss - You're Not Alone

So many women feel so incredibly alone and isolated after experiencing a loss.  I know I felt like I was the only one who had ever had a stillbirth.  The only one ever to have lost a child.  I know that sounds ridiculous - because I know in my head that that would be impossible.  No one I knew at that time had been through anything remotely close to what I'd experienced.  I was the only one.

It's not even the fact that I didn't know anyone - it was the isolation I felt when it seemed {to me} that no one wanted to be around me, especially if they were of child-bearing years, lest I jinx their pregnancy or ability to conceive or carry a child.  Ridiculous again, right?  But that's how it felt.

Regardless of what feelings you are having in your head about your loss or losses, please know that you are not alone.  It seemed to me that once I knew I wasn't the only one, I'd wind up hearing stories of loss all over the place.  It was almost like the secret invitation to some kind of club.  Someone find out you've had a loss and that is the opening they need to share with you about how they went through something similar.  You see, there are far more people with unfortunate experience in this are than you realize.

I went to a support group for a while.  It worked.  And it didn't work.  I don't know what your experiences are with support groups or whether they were positive or not.  But what if you had a place online where you could connect with other women who have gone through something similar.  What if we all had a place to go to regardless of time of day or night where we could share something and {hopefully} get a response?  What if you could share your story in the hopes that someone new to this world could be helped by it?  What if you had a place where you could come to seek support from other women with no obligation on your weekly calendar?  

See, here's what I'm thinking.  I'm sure it's not a unique idea, but I was considering beginning a facebook group for just this purpose.  I will state that I am not a professional counselor or therapist or anything otherwise "medical".  I'm just someone with a heart to reach out to women in need.  Would you be interested in joining such a group?

I am just starting to think about this, so it's not all set up yet.  I was thinking, though, that this would be a closed group.  The last thing we need is for it to be public when we're sharing some very intimate details of our personal stories of loss.  I would want people to feel that they are in a safe environment.  I would want people to come there because of their loss.  I would hope that people would invite others they know who have also experienced loss.  I would also want for this group to be set up as a Christian environment for women to share their stories.  I would want the atmosphere to be Christian.  

Does that all make sense??

If you are interested in joining such a group, PLEASE comment in the comment form below or you can click on the "email me" link in the upper right of this blog.  We can start small and grow a community.


This month we remember all our babies who have died during or after pregnancy.  October 15th is National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day.  Please join Salena from {A Little Piece of Me} on the 15th as we link up and share our stories.  Please feel free to grab a button to help spread the word!

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